Ministering to the Broken Hearted

There is no opportunity for ministry as powerful and as necessary as ministering to the broken hearted.  As ministry wives, we all know this is part of the calling we have in caring for the people with whom God has entrusted us. Yet this kind of ministry can come with considerable personal distress.  To weep with those who are mourning and comfort those who are afflicted can have a powerful effect on our emotional and spiritual lives. Frequently those who are the comforters need comforting themselves! Watching the suffering of those we love is not an easy road. Yet I am convinced, this is by far one of the most vital things we can do for others.

I know of a church with a beloved staff member who was greatly admired and respected. He served faithfully for many years, working and ministering alongside members of the church. Yet, tragically, past transgressions came to light, and he was forced to resign his position. The church was in an uproar: some arguing the “grace case” and others believing he was now disqualified for ministry. If that wasn’t enough, a new pastor had just arrived on the scene a few weeks before this came down and he was prayerfully seeking to make the right decisions for all parties involved. His wife was a friend of mine and I asked her one day how things were going. She said, “This is too hard. I just closed the blinds in my house and quit answering my phone for three days. I’m not talking to anybody!”  I was taken aback and hardly knew how to respond. But I thought, “You just missed the greatest opportunity you may ever have to truly minister to these people.” Bearing the burdens of others is not easy ― it’s usually depressing and painful. Yet, if we are to be like Christ, we must do so (Gal. 6:2).

Sometimes we hesitate to go to the hurting because we don’t know what to say. And it’s true there are some definite things NOT to say, such as quoting Romans 8:28 or glibly throwing out clichés like “God’s got that” (see Prov. 25:20). All people really need is someone to be with them, weep with them and assure them of God’s presence. Maybe Job’s friends should have just sat with him and kept their comments to themselves!

This prayer has provided me with words when I could not find any of my own:

Gracious God, the comfort of all who sorrow, the strength of all who suffer,

Hear the cry of those in misery and need, in their afflictions show them Your mercy.

And give us, we pray, the strength to serve them for the sake of Him who suffered for us, Your Son, Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

(Book of Common Prayer)

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